Aaaaaaaaaargh

OK let's rant. Remember my complaints about Idiot, my hubby's GOOD BUDDY? He has this daughter (3 or 4 years old I believe) and she is a NIGHTMARE! They've had her tested for autism, all sorts of things and can't find a scientific reason for her attitude problems. I have my suspicions but that's another subject all together. Yesterday we got an invitation to a party on Saturday. TWO days before the party. Our kids are almost 7, 9 1/2 and 18. The 7 year old had a party with a classmate on Saturday from 5-7. The 9 1/2 year old has basketball practice. Hubby works until 12 and gets home around 1 pm and the 18 year old works on Saturdays and my best friend is having a birthday party for herself that evening. The party is at 3 pm about 1/2-1 hour away. The invitation was laying on the table and I didn't mention it. Seemed a mute point. Not only that but my hubby usually shows no interest in the birthday parties of small children. A week ago when I returned home from a business trip my son's friend's mom asked if he was going to be coming that night to a party. She had sent a note home for me to call. I got all his stuff together at the last minute so he would go. Then I asked the hubby about the party and he said 'Oh ya you were supposed to call Sandy'. Anyway, he calls me today wanting to know if he got an invitation to a party (actually it was to the family) and I said "yes it's on the table with the mail (which he almost without fail thumbs through every evening) but we already had plans so I saw no need to point it out." And NOW he's all irate at me because I didn't mention to him the party of a 3-4 year old that we really couldn't even go to even though I left it with the rest of the mail AND he accuses me of the reason for my not telling him is that it is Idiot's daughter. If I had wanted to hide it I would have burned it, not that that idea didn't ever enter my mind, there was a nice toasty fire in the stove yesterday. He shows no interest in any other kids' parties including the ones of kids I practically raised in my daycare and he sees as very special. Don't get me wrong I would have avoided the subject anyway but I already had plenty going on Saturday and it was a mute point now wasn't it?